By Heather Faucher | Posted on September 9, 2009 | Filed Under Divorce
Wow, things are really getting heated between Jon and Kate Gosselin post-divorce. Jon has finally started speaking out publicly about his failed relationship and why he felt he had to get away from his wife–and her alleged abuse. “I was verbally abused. I was beaten down,” the 32-year-old ‘Jon and Kate Plus 8′ dad said on Good Morning America.
“She separated me from my family. She used to hold the kids over my head and say, ‘Don’t spend time with your mom, spend time with your kids.’ Why can’t I spend time with my mom and kids together?” he said. “Our relationship will never be fixed. I think down the road we might be friends, but at this point in time I don’t think so,” he said.
“It’s just like the change from America’s favorite dad to dirt-bag. Tomorrow I could be maybe… America’s favorite dad again. It could be after this interview. I don’t know. Whatever they want to write, let them write it. They’re going to write it anyway. I’ve learned that lesson,” he added.
Kate, on the other hand, is now apparently deciding that mum’s the better word. “While I certainly have a very different perception of how our marriage dissolved, for the sake of my children I maintain that I’m not going to go into details of aspects I believe should remain private,” she said.
Jon went on to say about filming the show: “We film it separately. She has her film crew. And I have my film crew. But I can’t sit on the sofa with that woman. I can’t sit on someone right now that I despise. I despise [her] because she’s not speaking from the heart. Please — the stuff you tell me in private should be the stuff you tell me on TV.”
Jon claimed that he thinks Kate still wears her wedding ring for less than noble reasons: “I think she still wears the ring for public perception. I don’t wear my ring because she took my ring. I don’t have it… I laid it down one night. It was gone. Who else would take it? I checked all the — underneath my kids’ pillows. That’s where everything ends up in the house anyway. So it wasn’t there.”
He also said that he wasn’t 100% sure whether Kate had strayed from the marriage: “I speculate, but I don’t know — that’s a general feel. You know, almost like when they were traveling together, I felt jealous. Here, I’m Mr. Mom. And then there’s some other guy traveling with my wife. Whether it’s protection or not, it’s all in — it’s in the back of my mind.”
Of course, he can’t exactly throw stones due to his relationship with 22-year-old girlfriend, Hailey Glassman, even though he did say this: “I didn’t leave Kate for Hailey. People think I left Kate for Hailey… because of the time-frame and what they printed in the tabloids. You can’t control who you love. I strongly believe that. You cannot control that. It’s two people joined together. [Glassman] is polar opposite of Kate. I feel like I love … love her more than I did Kate. I get encouragement from her, I get respect from her. Two things that a man needs. This is someone, I mean, like soul mate — like people joke about that. But I’m not joking about that.”
It may just be time for both Gosselins to learn that silence can be the better part of valor–for their children’s sake if not their own. It’s important to make sure divorce has as little negative impact on the kids as possible, something that they both seem to have forgotten.
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